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by emmitt on 12 October 2011 - 15:10
Hi Everyone,
looking for some advice, I am wondering can you REALLY protect your Reputation or if someone says things about you that are completely untrue...do you just have to take it on the chin?
I have never had any experience whatsoever with Slander or the laws surrounding it...and
in the end if the things were said verbally and not in writing is there really anything I can do about it? The things this woman said about ME (not my dogs mind you.... she said only absolutely great things about the dog she purchased from me) are completely untrue and unfounded... and honestly I have been so upset about it..this happened a week ago today, and I have been thru stages of rage... once drunken selfpity and now I am just so down about it.... is it worth getting a lawyer?
or do i need to follow my husbands advice...he says "consider the source"...
your time is appreciated
Kathy
looking for some advice, I am wondering can you REALLY protect your Reputation or if someone says things about you that are completely untrue...do you just have to take it on the chin?
I have never had any experience whatsoever with Slander or the laws surrounding it...and
in the end if the things were said verbally and not in writing is there really anything I can do about it? The things this woman said about ME (not my dogs mind you.... she said only absolutely great things about the dog she purchased from me) are completely untrue and unfounded... and honestly I have been so upset about it..this happened a week ago today, and I have been thru stages of rage... once drunken selfpity and now I am just so down about it.... is it worth getting a lawyer?
or do i need to follow my husbands advice...he says "consider the source"...
your time is appreciated
Kathy
by desert dog on 12 October 2011 - 16:10
Kathy,
I don't think there is much you can do. You're husband is right. People hear stuff all the time about breeders, trainers, even dogs, and most people understand most is just junk stuff. It will not change how people that know you will feel about you, they will already know the real you, and the ones that don't know you won't care one way or the other. Remember when you point a finger at someone else, there will be 3 pointing back at you.
Hank
I don't think there is much you can do. You're husband is right. People hear stuff all the time about breeders, trainers, even dogs, and most people understand most is just junk stuff. It will not change how people that know you will feel about you, they will already know the real you, and the ones that don't know you won't care one way or the other. Remember when you point a finger at someone else, there will be 3 pointing back at you.
Hank
by GSD Admin on 12 October 2011 - 16:10
No, because people will say what they want and get people to listen to them and really what can you do. You could present your case but then you run the risk of being called obsessed even though you are only trying to meet the BS/gossip head on.
I would consider the source. As some people really have nothing better to do in their lives, then talk smack about people (they do not know) or they are trying to make themselves look or feel better at your expense.
Good luck to you and hope you find peace with this.
I would consider the source. As some people really have nothing better to do in their lives, then talk smack about people (they do not know) or they are trying to make themselves look or feel better at your expense.
Good luck to you and hope you find peace with this.
by gsdhaven on 12 October 2011 - 16:10
good advice above... if you deal with enough people you are bound to make enemies. Consider the source is a great way to look at it! But dont lay down, meet any allegations head on, if I could afford it I would sue, if you cant then tit for tat, its only way to deal with bullies. Reputation wise, I think previous poster explained well...
by Red Sable on 12 October 2011 - 16:10
That saying, 'the truth hurts' is bs IMO. Lies hurt much worse.
If it affects your business, than I'd fight back, in fact, I think I'd present my case if I were you, because even though we say we dont' listen to gossip, I think unless we've heard the other side, we do tend to believe it to an extent.
If it affects your business, than I'd fight back, in fact, I think I'd present my case if I were you, because even though we say we dont' listen to gossip, I think unless we've heard the other side, we do tend to believe it to an extent.
by Red Sable on 12 October 2011 - 16:10
LOL, sorry about the language, I just thought this kinda fit, and it is kinda funny!
Then of course, there is this...
by emmitt on 12 October 2011 - 16:10
Thanks everyone for the advice.....i really do appreciate it.
I SOOO badly want to "let it go" you know? I just can't handle the
stress...but the other side of it is I am worried it will hurt my business...
if you know me and you have been to my house, met my dogs...then you know
110% that every word out of her mouth is a complete lie....
and the funny part was it was coincedence that the person she said these things to
HAD been here... they were so upset about what she said they called to tell me about it.
but what if it was someone that didn't know me? and that someone repeats it to someone else???
and they BELIEVE it... I have been breeding GSDs for 9 years...I try so hard to do what is right,
( I am in no way saying I am perfect or anything like that... but I really do my best) yet someone that can't spell D-O-G can say horrible things about me and get away with it.
I am a total mess over this... but i don't want to waste money on a lawyer if its really just a
waste of time.... and also the person that let me know, isn't even a client of mine she is just a
young woman that was out looking at the dogs for a next years litter...so kind of hate to put her in the middle of it too.... she was nice enough to let me know what was going on, otherwise i would be completely in the dark about it.
I really want to just try and forget about it .... but man I am just so angry....
I SOOO badly want to "let it go" you know? I just can't handle the
stress...but the other side of it is I am worried it will hurt my business...
if you know me and you have been to my house, met my dogs...then you know
110% that every word out of her mouth is a complete lie....
and the funny part was it was coincedence that the person she said these things to
HAD been here... they were so upset about what she said they called to tell me about it.
but what if it was someone that didn't know me? and that someone repeats it to someone else???
and they BELIEVE it... I have been breeding GSDs for 9 years...I try so hard to do what is right,
( I am in no way saying I am perfect or anything like that... but I really do my best) yet someone that can't spell D-O-G can say horrible things about me and get away with it.
I am a total mess over this... but i don't want to waste money on a lawyer if its really just a
waste of time.... and also the person that let me know, isn't even a client of mine she is just a
young woman that was out looking at the dogs for a next years litter...so kind of hate to put her in the middle of it too.... she was nice enough to let me know what was going on, otherwise i would be completely in the dark about it.
I really want to just try and forget about it .... but man I am just so angry....
by emmitt on 12 October 2011 - 16:10
LOVE the cartoon...I hope its true!!!!
by GSDNewbie on 12 October 2011 - 17:10
OMG Red Sable I LOVE THAT!!!
Anyone can say something about you, most will believe the first they hear and you get no chance after that. There really is not much you can do about it either. If you find out different please come back and share.
I do believe in karma :) It is why I smile when I rescue dogs and not just talk about they should be rescued, it is why I offer art and graphic work for free to dog rescues, it is why I did SAR for over 6 years, it is why I was a scoutmaster, it is why I taught battered women in shelters how to use a computer to obtain jobs, it is why I open our home on holidays to students and military away from their families..... basicallly it is why I am who I really am if anyone really got to know me.
Anyone can say something about you, most will believe the first they hear and you get no chance after that. There really is not much you can do about it either. If you find out different please come back and share.
I do believe in karma :) It is why I smile when I rescue dogs and not just talk about they should be rescued, it is why I offer art and graphic work for free to dog rescues, it is why I did SAR for over 6 years, it is why I was a scoutmaster, it is why I taught battered women in shelters how to use a computer to obtain jobs, it is why I open our home on holidays to students and military away from their families..... basicallly it is why I am who I really am if anyone really got to know me.
by Vixen on 12 October 2011 - 17:10
Hello Kathy, Obviously I do not know the details surrounding this sad situation (neither do I want to know by the way). But remember no one will have everyone agree with them or even like them!
Stay true to yourself. Don't try to put on an act either. Be you! Just ignore with the disdain such rude or obnoxious behaviour deserves. People who know you, know you! Those who don't, will be aware of your response/reaction and behaviour to what you have indicated as very unseemly verbal abuse.
All the hurt, upset, frustration and anger that you are feeling ...... do you think that particular person is suffering the same way as you are????? Therefore, don't allow yourself to continue to add to their abuse on yourself. They will probably tire anyway, when no reaction is achieved. And people are just hearing and seeing some nasty remarks from one source.
Pick yourself up, dust yourself down, chin up, smile ..... and stride forward with all that you are blessed to know and love ........
KINDEST Regards,
Vixen
Stay true to yourself. Don't try to put on an act either. Be you! Just ignore with the disdain such rude or obnoxious behaviour deserves. People who know you, know you! Those who don't, will be aware of your response/reaction and behaviour to what you have indicated as very unseemly verbal abuse.
All the hurt, upset, frustration and anger that you are feeling ...... do you think that particular person is suffering the same way as you are????? Therefore, don't allow yourself to continue to add to their abuse on yourself. They will probably tire anyway, when no reaction is achieved. And people are just hearing and seeing some nasty remarks from one source.
Pick yourself up, dust yourself down, chin up, smile ..... and stride forward with all that you are blessed to know and love ........
KINDEST Regards,
Vixen
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