Forum Bullies - Page 4

Little things stand out in your mind, looking back..

I remember clearly speaking with a young man, many years ago. He made a comment, that he knew that his mother would not know what to do, if anything happened to him. I could see so clearly that he was absolutely safe from so many evils in the world out there.. As if he had a suit of iron. Just knowing without a doubt that he was loved gave him strength and a sense of self worth. A lot of kids and young people just don't have this.

I know another woman who has raised four sons and all are fine young men. Whenever I see young men who are sure of themselves and self confident and loving, I know they have a good mother who was not holding back the love they needed when they were growing up. Women just have NO idea how important their influence is on that life they brought into the world, and all the lives that child will touch. Mothers, DO NOT reject your child, no matter what you may feel inside. The love you give them for these few years will carry them through a lifetime and overflow to those all around them.

The world today is very tough, and getting tougher. I think it's important to TRY, VERY HARD to be nice and to treat people well. I do try. I know it's important, and that being nice doesn't necessarily come automatically. So, I usually try. But, it stops at a point. I am defensive. I don't like to be lied to, jerked around, manipulated, threatened, cheated, and taken advantage of. I've just been through too much crap in life. My overall experience is that the world out here doesn't really care about us as individuals very much (if at all). I also don't like to have my ass kissed, and I don't pucker up for many people, either.. it's not very genuine. Most people out there are just looking to see what they can get from you. When they are done with you, they walk away... which is OK with me, really. I am blunt and direct, to a fault. What can I say? If it's not real, I'm probably not going to be interested. I'm almost to the point, now, that when I do something..anything.. I don't get my feelings involved in it. The feelings just screw things up for me.

About this Phoebe gal.. I lost my only child, now over twenty years ago. I can tell you that for a parent, there is NO pain like that, and the hurt never really goes away. I've just learned to leave it largely behind me. I don't think much about her, anymore. Like I said.. When I think about it and the feelings start to come, it really screws me up. Meanwhile, I have to deal with the demands of day to day life. So, I can't think about this old stuff..

Her parents will have to deal with it in their own way, but I can almost guarantee you that it will take a good seven to ten years.. That's the standard period for grieving. It really sucks, because for a long time, you're just pretty worthless, full of pain but otherwise empty and hollow and dead inside.

Yeah.. I can relate to this sad story on a lot of fronts.. "been there, done that"...

The one thing I can say for the good in my case is that our daughter was widely loved and treated well by her schoolmates. She had a lot of friends, but wasn't really a "popular" girl, if that makes sense. When we had her funeral, there must have been over a thousand people there. I was really floored! So was everyone... She was a really sweet kid. I guess a lot of people loved her. That is appreciated, very much..

It's difficult in this society.. no time to grieve. People just want you to get over it and get back to the routine. Unfortunately, it doesn't work that way. It takes as much time as it takes, and everyone deals with it in their own way. But the grieving thing is not allowed. You have to do that privately. You have to stuff your pain. Grief is just too inefficient and messy, you know?

"VomMarischal: We as adults are also gulible. Seems we have been on here, too.'

Yeah, THAT is putting it mildly. What a pack of suckers. Well, you might want to be adults and think for yourselves in future instead of letting a crock of garbage blind you. 

Don't worry about it, Bazza, you are 100% right, it is clear as glass that the people who would sneak around behind your back and accuse you of a despicable act have their own agenda.  All we can do is pity them.  Remember they are only proving themselves to be cowards.

I do not know about Internet bullying but i know what it was like in real life when i was a Kid, At School i had three Lads who picked on me not once a day but mornings, break times, and after school going Home. Now my problem was i was only a little Lad, However one day when being picked on a voice inside said to stop it its gone on long enough
 So i said to the biggest of the three who was the Ring Leader. Meet me outside the school when it finishes and you and me sort it out once and for all i have had enough, I went out and the three Boys waiting I walked up to the ring Leader no talking and smacked him on the Nose he went down and i stood there, As he got up to his knees i hit him again, as he started to rise again i hit him again and again until he said no more, Then i turned to his mates and said who is next, They did not want to know so the bullying stopped and No one in the school after that would Bully me and if they were doing it to someone else and i walked over they stopped.
Later on when i was about 16 years old i was walking through a archway near home There was this Deaf and Dumb fellow about 30 years old, He was standing there and as i walked by he whacked me over the head with a rust frying pan which went down to my shoulders, cutting my head and Neck, needing hospital treatment, After that i said to myself i had to toughen up because i was still a small Lad, and if i did not then i could be in trouble
So a I looked at the ways of doing it and Martial Arts was one way, However i waited for near on 2 years before i started with one Old Guy, This went on for over 10 years 5 nights a week, It was the best thing i ever did
Never was it used in Anger, never used on anyone weaker, But it stood me in good stead later in life So that i fully recommend to anyone especially Women if they have time just to learn a little is good
NO' it is not nice to be bullied in fact there is little worse for you are in a way ashamed to tell anyone for fear that you may think that you are weak but that is not the case, So anyone being bullied stick up for yourself and face the one doing it for most bullys are cowards when faced
Steve1

Bazza, Ignore this obviously spurious and nefarious crap. What absolute rubbish! Any of you stop to conside that the reason for the vagueness was the simple fact that it was defamation and a few folks had enough sense to NOT want to be sued for putting false accusations on the internet, knowing they were false and they had no proof? Also, remember that this is a mess among the Brits. Those who have been here a few years will recall that they have acted on some pretty bizarre agendas in the past and those of us on the other side of the pond never had the vaguest clue what it was about. We still don't. However, some of us do know Bazza enough to put no credence in these attacks and accusations with no evidence.