Has anyone else had enough ??? - Page 1

Holy cow no kidding, since this K-9 Helser thing got started, I have been ripped for simple suggestiions like... Take dog to vet, Ask Your Vet, Have PreLims done, on and on. WOW what is going on, I also see people getting ripped for asking simple questions... What is wrong with this picture ? Is that not what we are all here for, to share expeiriences and ask others of they're expeiriences. But since this other thing has been monopolizing the entire board, others seem to find it OK with being RUDE, and NASTY. Quite frankly I'm sick of the whole K-9 Helser thing and wish it would all just go away, or be done with. All I'm getting at is Enough is Enough already can we all get back to getting along and helping each other by offering up suggestions, and expeiriences that have possative effects. :-)

Yes, Enough

EchoMeadows, You have to understand the whole picture here. The dynamics are multi-faceted. You have different personalities, different people, with different wants and desires when they come to the board. You have to understand ALSO, not all post are intended to be mean spirited. The same post if spoken verbally, with the intend tone and gentle hand gestures, manirisms, ect, would not offend at all, they will actually be civil and enjoyable. Not always is the intentied post received in it's proper context. This is the responsibility of the receiver. If you(not you personally) are sensitive and your feelings are easily hurt and there are many misunderstandings in your personally life, this is not the responsibilty of the poster. Most people have other lives and when they at the end of the day, it is just a "matter of fact", type attempt at making a post. Then you have the manure stirers, the know it alls, the curious, the defiant, the other breed mentality that is here, for WHATEVER reason, ect., and when you mix all these factors in, the bottom line is, it is not a place where we all sit around the fireplace, hold hands, and sing, "Kum Ba Ya"(probably mispelled). The faint of heart, just have to be able to "build a bridge", and "get over it". The bottom line is, this is a great site, in spite of the personality differences to promote and glean information about the GSD. I guess the same diversity and tenacity that is the GSD, abounds in it's owners and we have to look past the conflicts and get out of the site what we need and want individually, and move on in life. I do agree that the vile in your face cursing is something we can do without, but other than that if you want a friend, go out and play with your GSDs, because this is probably not the place for that. Just an opinion. Stephen

Stephen, Well put and points taken ! :-)

Stephen, As usual you have stated things well. There is only one post currently active I'm tired of. I fully understand the difference of opinions in general, though at times things can get a bit heated. Oh well, after a long day sometimes people talk first and think later.

I second that. It's just silly and pointless.

Yes, but you really did come up with some good ones Grim.

My favorite are people that jump on you for forgetting a period....Like I really care.... There's 8 extra in case I forget one! I agree it would be nice to get back to sharing good info. and not attacking each other.

"Quite frankly I'm sick of the whole K-9 Helser thing and wish it would all just go away, or be done with." Simple solution: just ignore it. Unfortunately, it's also the hardest solution to implement, because it's not easy to just walk past that particular train wreck without saying SOMETHING. On another discussion forum that I frequent (that has nothing to do with GSDs), we have a saying when dealing with disruptive jerks: "Don't Feed The Trolls." Not giving them the attention they crave makes them try their luck elsewhere.

I, as well as many of you remember part of the opening sentence of a famous document "Go placidly against the noise and haste." While that is about all that I can remember, I do think of it as perhaps the most important statement from that document. Not one that I can live by, but try to live by when possible. I amended those words to remind me to: Be pleasant; and when you (meaning me) can't be pleasant, at least be civil. Tough at times, I know. And sometimes not applicable at all. We have those who choose to grandstand, we have those who choose to bully, and we have those who have been adversaries for such a long time that they probably forgot the origin of the initial argument that continues to cause their contest with each other. Tired of it? Of course I am, but, to each his own as long as they don't try to pick on me. If I say something wrong and that is pointed out, well, I am a grown man and will admit my mistakes. Of course for every ill-behaved person on the messageboard, there are at least one-hundred who remain pleasant, informative, and/or inquisitive. I remember a poster who is new to this messageboard e-mailed with a question, and after answering the question to the best of my ability, I perhaps went a bit too far and advised them of a handful of people to avoid if at all possible, and also of great many more who to ask questions because of their tremendous knowledge and expertise in certain canine aspects. The messageboard exists for all of us, and we know that it is hard to have a circus without a few clowns-that's the world as we know it. It would be so easy if we could all move past personalities (at least how we interpret them here) and see things for how they were meant to be said, or could have been said, but that is really tough sometimes. Stephen makes an excellent point. It is often is very difficult to write something that is as acceptable to read as it is to hear spoken. The badgering that some dish out is at times a bit amusing, then it gets out of hand and becomes downright nasty. My advice-stay away from it and don't let it upset you. I know that I stay away from it when I see nothing useful to glean. I certainly see no point to jump in and try to be a referee, an agitator, or the messageboard's comic relief. That is certainly not my purpose in life. Enjoy the intended purpose of the messageboard, Bob-O