Battered UScA Member Syndrome! - Page 1

Some not all of the members of UScA have the same systems as the Battered Wife Syndrome. From my research on the topic to me is seem very clear how else can anyone stay when you know all along it's time to go. They are getting more bold with the their reasoning on why to do things and people still stay. I'm not talking about the one drinking to Kool-Aid. I'm talking about the ones that supposedly not drinking the Kool-Aid. Below is the for stages of Battered Woman Syndrome, check it out and see if I'm pretty close in my description?
 
Stages of Battered Women's Syndrome There are generally four stages in the battered women¿s syndrome. Stage One¿Denial Stage one of battered women's syndrome occurs when the battered woman denies to others, and to herself, that there is a problem. Most battered women will make up excuses for why their partners have an abusive incident. Battered women will generally believe that the abuse will never happen again.
 
Stage Two¿Guilt Stage two of battered women's syndrome occurs when a battered woman truly recognizes or acknowledges that there is a problem in her relationship. She recognizes she has been the victim of abuse and that she may be beaten again. During this stage, most battered women will take on the blame or responsibility of any beatings they may receive. Battered women will begin to question their own characters and try harder to live up their partners ¿expectations.¿
 
Stage Three-Enlightenment Stage three of battered women's syndrome occurs when a battered woman starts to understand that no one deserves to be beaten. A battered woman comes to see that the beatings she receives from her partner are not justified. She also recognizes that her partner has a serious problem. However, she stays with her abuser in an attempt to keep the relationship in tact with hopes of future change.
 
Stage Four¿Responsibility Stage four of battered women's syndrome occurs when a battered woman recognizes that her abuser has a problem that only he can fix. Battered women in this stage come to understand that nothing they can do or say can help their abusers. Battered women in this stage choose to take the necessary steps to leave their abusers and begin to start new lives.
 

If you are a victim of Battered UScA Member Syndrome, help is available. Call or Write me I'll be glad to tell you how to break the chain. Wallace Payne

Not to be disrespectful or anything but you might not be the best role model for that

With all due respect, I'm sure it was not your intention but,  your comparison is insulting to Women who have been victims of abuse at the hands of men.

JMO

Mr. Kim Moore

I think the situation sucks for a lot of people, but this analogy is in extremely poor taste.

Ok,  here's the deal!  Take it for what it's worth, or take it how you want. Doesn't matter to me it got your attention and it gave each of you food for thought and a lot of other people looked at it as well unless the 3 of you looked at it over 200 times?  I remember writing a post when all this got started titled "Another form of Nazism" and people had issue about that.  Low and behold someone of importance told me that Lyle ran the meeting like the SS. 


I was once told that you get what you tolerate,  and the membesr of UScA is tolerating a lot and they have option.  It seem like staying to change the system is not working.

Wallace Payne

 Could it be Battered Wallace Syndrome? :) 

Dogsport is interesting - people who do bitework do tend to be a little different than most.   Americans are far too weird to tolerate bitework at your local park given their creepy nature. 

Dogsport is cliquish, not entirely cooperative, and generally a little weird in the states, combined with just as many training methods as there opinions. You mix that with people's drive to profitability in selling dogs, providing training, and ....well...it becomes disastrous.  While I'd like to say that it brings the best out in people, far too many opine that without thick skin you'll never make it in the sport.

Having UScA problems?  Just look in the mirror.  The leadership in every one of our clubs sets the tone.  Those who set the example as competitors and trainers carry weight. So do boardmembers, committee members and the like. 

Think that the current leadership sucks?  It didn't happen overnight.  UScA has no one to blame but yourselves for it, the battered, the Nazi, the oppressed, the battered women and Wallace's, and the bystander alike.  

NARA versus ARF.
SV versus SV2000. 
UScA and DVG. 

Different organizations, same crap - as some of the more experienced players get more senior, they become more and more dysfunctional in preserving their place or excluding others.

Those of us with non-dog jobs and who have ample politics in our lives outside of dogsport simply become immune or don't care. 

Case in point:  recent posting regarding NARA and the number of trials conducted:

"Just looking at the trials from previous years,, very cool go NARA
2002 13 trials
2003 14 trials
2004 16 trials
2005 15 trials
2006 27 trials
2007 19 trials
2008 21 trials
2009 25 trials
2010 29 trials
Again this is pretty exciting please excuse me if I added any year wrong.. "

Now - what's the annual membership been like? Growing or shrinking? How many of those trials were private club trials or closed?  Which clubs conducted trials?  You'll quickly see...what are the UScA membership numbers, trials, etc?

Fun, eh?