How do you treat a 13 year old..... - Page 1

if you are talking about kids, you ground them unitl they turn 30. If you are talking about dogs, let them do what they are comfortable with, they let you know what activity level they are up to. I believe in letting them enojy thier activities they dearly love, unless you are aware of medical issues that should prevent or slow them down,

Thank you 1doggie2,

the idear of grounding them till 30 seem apropriate !

Having a 15 year old daughter I can completely identify with you.

At my daughters 6th grade promotion one of the teachers gave us parents a little food for thought on teens----- they are like cats until they reach their mid twentys and then we are suppose to see them return to the cool people we know they are

My daughter believes she is actually one of the Kardashian sisters.... I sure hope she is because she in no way resembles the cute pre teen that she used to be.

At least she is done with the "black" emo phase and now will cost her future husband plenty with her new designer tastes.

Hang in there it will get better in a few years.

Peace,

Julie

Yup, Julie, Peace is what we will find ina couple of years !!

But, shoot, I asked my wife if we were the same at that age, her answer was, you were, not me !!

I guess, it'a revolving story !  Yours Ulli

 Do you own a good dogtra collar?

oh, bob--good one! that MIGHT work...worth a shot anyway.

ulli--the bad news is, it's just starting; you have atleast 5 more years to live thru. and grounding doesn't work--they just sneak out in the middle of the night while you're sleeping :(

BUT-taking away privileges as a consequence for bad behavior does help (like NILIF training dogs); just try to make the punishment fit the crime as best you can. and DON'T let him suck you into an argument--they're GOOD at changing the subject to start a fight, then you lose. stay focussed (haha), and don't get mad(that makes THEM mad, but that's ok).

GOOD LUCK!!!

I call it the terrible teens.......  I ask my parents why they let me live, and that was a looong time ago now.  LOL     Just remember the same thing YOUR parents kept thinking, "Someday you too will have a teenager and know what we went through!"   This too shall pass Ulli, though it may seem like a long few years for you and your wife. 

Awe Ullie, I totally sympathise.... Chuckie has good input for you. My boys are now 28 and 31 and ya know... I think we done alright. But it was sure a go for some years. Just love him and it should turn out OK. Actually when I think back I pitty mine and my hubby's parents. We were '60's and '70's kids, it should say something. Hang in there!

Mine are only 8 and 4 (hes going thru 2 and 3 late all at once) but told my mom I prefer dogs. You can us prong collars, electric collars, and crates and not go to jail