Dogs and Divorce - Page 4

ME

Had to weigh in on this one.  Yes.  In my first marriage I lived for my dogs, training, researching, breeding and everything else  associated with dogs.  I had placed more value on them and training and studying them than I did on my wife.  My priorities were upside down and as a result I was a poor husband.  That simple.  My marriage, her happiness and well being always came behind the dog world.  I always justified it that one day she would appreciate all the hard work I put into dogs and business.  Well, she didn't and became very disenchanted with our marriage and family.  So one day she left and that was it.

Ironic thing was, the dogs and business I loved left when she took our children and left.  I lost family, home, business all in one sweep.  Painful lesson.  One that stayed with me for a long time.  The marriage I have today is great, a real blessing but it took a lot of humbling.  I know what is important and no dog or business is worth treating a spouse as a second class citizen.  Today when we go some where I ask if she minds if the dogs come along.  If she says "I would rather not, would rather spend the time with you", then it is a no brainer.

Am I henpecked?  No, I just have a very clear and healthy view of what is important today and my family will always come before my obsessions.  This was the toughest lesson in life for me, but finally got through my thick skull.

Great post Olskool, thanks for sharing.

Being single makes it so easy.  If I meet a woman who doesn't like dogs, then obviously it won't work out, so only sex is the option...lol

But you do come across some that do like dogs but as with most you have to get them use to a GSD as many women like those ankle bitters.

I will have my dogs until I do get remarried and then and only then will I decide to place some of them.
 

I think the right person wouldn't ask for you to place them and would accept them.  Dating someone with dogs is like dating someone with kids, it is a package deal.  Accept us all or move on.

I agree Ace! It just doesn't make any sense to me for someone who truely love me to ask me to give up ANY of my dogs! I would dive into my husbands hobbies too! It's all about loving someone for who they are not what you want them to be. Don't get me wrong I'm all for a spouse helping you become stronger in your weak areas. That's how it should be! But it also incudes encouraging someone in their strengths!
Debby

I just couldn't resist this one. I've been married and divorced-umm-a few times, and I know one thing for sure...I've never spent a single minute thinking about an ex-husband, but I remember to the smallest detail every dog I've ever had in my life. And yes, I've often been accused of caring more for my dogs than other people, and I've never denied it. :)

No offense intended, guys. I think you men are sexy and oh so appealing, but being single is just soooo much EASIER! Especially with a good dog for company.