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by flygirl55 on 27 February 2011 - 16:02

Hubby # 1 was not such a dog person. But our biggest problem was that the umbilical cord had never been cut between his mommy and him. Interestingly enough, he started making noises when we split about taking the dog but I put a realllly quick stop to that. Fast forward 12 years to hubby #2. He's a really good guy and is EXTREMELY tolerant of new animals appearing in the household. His biggest drawback is that he's a bit of a redneck and they have a really different view of how animals interact with people. But in all the years we've been together now, he's not only learned to accept that the dogs will sleep on the bed with us, but actually will invite them up. My next task is to get him to understand how to be around the horses :-)

by Ninja181 on 27 February 2011 - 16:02

I've had German Shepherds for 40 yrs. I told my wife one time, hey, I could go hang out in bars or chase other woman but I prefer to have a GSD around. The present GSD gives the wife a lot of attention and they are very close. The one before that caused a few anxious moments though, LOL. Now my wife is a dog lover, but she is very petite and she just isn't going to physically control a big dog, and I think this factor could cause a problem in some relationships.

From my observations if one person has a very serious hobby or interest they should make sure to give a lot of affection to their spouse, boyfriend/girlfriend. If not, this is where jealousy sets in, and they will begin to despise the object that they perceive is stealing your attention.

I think this is a good thread, and this issue (Dogs affecting a relationship) is somewhat prevalent in a lot more relationships then people would normally suspect.

by GSDtravels on 27 February 2011 - 16:02

Jenni, on the contrary, I agree wholeheartedly!

Ninja, I have to disagree with size being a factor. I'm 4' 11" and about 105 lbs. I only have 10 lbs on Drake and he's much more powerful than I am. It's not about size, it's about handling and control. Now, I do have to say here, that when I was doing Schutzhund training, in the early stages, I did have someone larger handle him because he could have easily dragged me during agitation, but other than that...

by Ninja181 on 27 February 2011 - 17:02

GSDtravels. I'll bet you are tenacious and have established yourself as higher in the pack than Drake. So I firmly believe you can control him. Not so in the case of my dear wife. LOL
She is just not going to handle him in certain situations, and I'd venture to guess there are some husbands (non dog type) that just aren't going to handle a GSD. With a lot of people it might be more attitude and knowledge than personal strength or size.

by GSDtravels on 27 February 2011 - 17:02

Gotcha Ninja

by djc on 27 February 2011 - 18:02

Ninja i disagree. Some people are just insecure no matter how much love and attention you give them. they need mental help. when they refuse to get help... good bye is fine and good riddence. Single is best.
Debby

by Rik on 27 February 2011 - 19:02

She got the kids and I got the dogs. Later on, when they were teenagers, she took me back to court and wanted to swap back. Statue of limitations had run out.

Rik

by Kalibeck on 27 February 2011 - 20:02

flygirl55-I think that's the issue with my Carl, altho' he'd be very unhappy if someone called him a redneck, LOL!

And as far as size...most of the GSD people I know are teeny little ladies, one of whom has dogs that out weigh her....but she has a great big personality, I'm sure her dogs think she is a GIANT! None of them would ever think of disobeying her, & she'll walk right up to a strange, hostile acting dog & have them sweet & submissive in no time. And she thinks the TV dog trainers are a bunch of sharlatans. I've seen her in action, she takes no BS from anyone, 2 footed or 4 footed! And it's funny how even the big, aggressive dogs seem to know they won't get away with it with her. Now she's also got a couple pretty impressive scars, so her powerful personality didn't always win, but I wish I could bottle that attitude, I'd make a fortune!
jackie harris

by djc on 27 February 2011 - 23:02

tooo funny Rik!!!!

by Mindhunt on 28 February 2011 - 00:02

Red Sable, I got extremely lucky and found the man of my dreams. Don't get me wrong, we have our arguments but always make up and are never malicious or disprespectful during our arguments. If a mean or disprespectful comment does occasionally slip out, the offending party usually is quick to make ammends. He spoils me rotten and with style!!!

As for dogs, well he wasn't that into it like I was but he knew I wanted to get into dog training and such so he spent time talking to K9 officer friends and other breeders to find a good breeder without my knowledge. Then he surprised me by taking me out to find my pup and has supported me ever since. He calls himself the glorified pooper scooper and general kennel gopher. He even continued working with my dogs and my trainer when I was out of commission just to make sure my dogs were ready for me when I was back on my feet. He ended up becoming very attached to our dogs and is looking at our retirement house with an eye toward doggie comfort and room so I can continue. As a trade-off, I let him get his Harleys, 3 last count (like I don't benefit from his hobbies LOL), his H2, race cars, wood shop tools, and all his other hobbies and support him the whole way. We work well together.

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