Rudeness - Page 2

I advise all that I refer here to sit and watch for awhile , they can learn before they take on some of the member who are off the hook.There are alot of new people or old people under new names who being rude and keep grudges going.Being a old timer means you have the patience to teach,if not then keep quite and learn a little more.If your having a bad day then go to bed instead a ruining someone elses day.

i come from the horse world, there is a huge difference between the dog and horse people. SOME dog people i have run across, most well known people, are rude, impatient and just simply a disgrace to be breeders. they snap at you like their shit dont stink and they are heads and tails above you. i have dealt with the richest and most successful people in thoroughbred breeding, they will do whatever they can to help with pedigree matching, breeding, etc. and never bitch about you wasting their time. and they own a horse that is worth millions. try to talk to someone about buying a 1500 dollar puppy and they snap your head off like they have the only damn german shepherd in the world. people need to be proud of their shepherds and want to talk about the dogs, but it happens rarely. ive turned down a lot of dogs simply cuz the seller was a douche bag. ive about given up on even trying to talk about dogs or even breeding all together because if its something you love doing, then you should want to help newbies and earn respect. if i ever get to the point where im a known breeder, i will never tell someone they are wasting my time or act like im better. reality is no one will never know everything about the breed.

"I don't mind when old topics are brought up again, after all, there are only so many things one can discuss, and everytime it is discussed, there are new people on the board with new, interesting comments/ideas".

Kindly said, Red Sable, and I am in total agreement. But like Uber Land's feelings, I too, am occasionaly taken aback by the rudeness and general lack of respect on this board; however, I'm less upset by someone's frustration regarding information than by nasty self-grandiozing at the expense of a fellow human being. If you aren't breeding to so-and-so's standards of the "ideal" german shepherd, god help you. Some of us have forgotten the adage "if you can't say something nice about someone, then don't say anything at all", the all-importance of something called TACT and that silence is golden.

Perhaps it's the lack of a moderator; I don't see foul language or aggressive finger-pointing on the "green board" or with the germanshepherds.com message board. Even the Leerburg site seems relatively civilized in comparison! 

You know what happens when there is no lunch hour supervisor on the elementary school grounds? Bullying happens, folks, and the internet is no exception.  

I am always rude :) and I always say what I think, no matter where I am, I appreciate when people do the same to me, I hate fake people trying to be polite when they really think something else. Always be a straight shooter, I hate when people tell me good morning, they say it only because it's expected most of them don't even think about the meanining of that sentence. Than you have the standard how you doing, or how is your day while most don't really give a s...... LOL I know I am an a.... lol can't help it. Before I join this board I been researching and learning from other people for 4 years, reading books, watching dog trainiers, watching handlers, using the search tool on other forums as well as this one, the only reason I join this board was when asking for refrences for my last breeder, and I just staied around, I found a lot of great people with a lot of knowledge and some people that think they know something but in reality know very little, but even today I think this is a great board, and every now and than you can learn a lot. People are just lazy, they come here want a cut dry answear they too lazy to learn, and than in a month or two will come back crying that they got screwed, when the only reason they got screwed was because they forgot to learn how to walk before runing. :)

"it seems like alot of new people have came to the board here lately,  just about all have asked the same questions,  and when they don't get an answer they like,  such as an old member telling them to run a search on the board for a previous discussion on the same subject,  the new people get all rude and pissy."

Short answer?  Because that behavior is tolerated on this board.

Sadly, they probably lurked for awhile before posting and learned that that is the "Pedigree Database" way.  Unfortunately, although there are certainly some lovely, helpful people here, it's very common for this board to be cruel and nasty.  I think many new posters are already exposed to the tone of this board before they start posting - politeness does not rule the day here.

I'm all for a good fight, and can fight like a tiger with someone about one issue, but then it's over, and on a different thread I'll end up agreeing with and defending the same person, but you know there are people on here who hang on like Grim Death to old disagreements and enjoy being mean.

People need to understand that behaving in a civil, adult manner means doing do ALL the time, not just when one agrees with you. The "sometimey" people who seem to turn on a dime at any given moment need not be surprised when their nasty, name-calling behavior is what is remembered about them, the same as if the discourse were in person. Too many people adopt a "computer persona" they would never display in person, and never tolerate in person, either. You never know when you may meet one of these people in person. Which posting day do you think they will remember?

As with Snaiper, I do not go out of my way to be rude to anyone,
But i tell them on the forum what i think and if it comes over not to there liking then that is Tough, that is how i am, but i never put anything into print that i will not put into practise face to face in real life
I hate anything false, and believe me when i say no one person has too many friends, or people they think of as friends
In my long life i have had only four three are now gone, Two of those people i could trust with my life and did,
As for newbies yes, let them do a bit of swoting up, But i always like to help some one if i can, I love to do so, But as long as they do not take liberties after
Steve