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by vonissk on 21 March 2010 - 22:03
Robin I am so very sorry for your loss. I know words don't mean much right now but know I am feeling your pain. He is at the Bridge with a bunch of others but always waiting for you. Thoughts and prayers to you.
by GSDSRULE on 21 March 2010 - 22:03
I am so sorry for your loss.
by Kalibeck on 22 March 2010 - 01:03
I am so sorry for your loss. Words are so inadequate....there is a new angel, watching over you with loving eyes, always there...always with you....God bless you & your family. RIP, Drago. Best wishes, jackie harris
by HBFanatic on 22 March 2010 - 01:03
I am so sorry. You two where truly blessed to have had each other.
by Pharaoh on 22 March 2010 - 06:03
Sorry for your loss. Drago sounds like he was a really special dog.
He will live on in your heart forever.
Michele
He will live on in your heart forever.
Michele
by crhuerta on 24 March 2010 - 13:03
I want to thank everyone for their kind words and PMs.....you can't imagine how much it has meant to me.
I feel the need to express some of the feelings I am having.....I believe that the best word to describe them is anger...bitterness.
Drago was severely injured 3 years ago in a car accident with us.....we were hit head on, in our van....and it was totaled.
The fiberglass crate (from Germany) that he was in, was thrown across from the rear of the cargo van to the front seat backs, where it shattered. He suffered a nearly severed ear, muzzle, sinus & spine injury.......BUT by God's grace.....no human involved was critically injured.
Drago has not ever fully recovered.....
The days were getting harder......I watched him as he "tried" to keep his stature.
He would cry and bark every time we would leave for training...( after all....he LIVED for those days)...
He would walk (sideways) as fast as he could.....to beat us to the car, in hopes that we would not "forget" him this time!
On his last day......I started to get things organized for the weekend......and I looked over to "my best friend, my heart dog"....and he was struggling to get his back legs under him. He looked confused, determined AND angry......He looked at me as if to say......"Don't worry mom....I'm coming, don't leave me!"......but he was unable to get upright again.
At that moment, something in me whispered....."It's time." I could not bare to watch the most noble, strong & wonderful best friend...suffer any longer......It would be selfish, and cruel.
HE wasn't happy any longer.....HE wasn't enjoying the things in life that brought him joy....HE was being "protected" by me, and "hidden" from the angles.
I decided to make the journey with my best friend to the bridge crossing.......one of .the saddest days of my adult life.
I am angry, bitter and I still cry many hours of the day. I can hear, smell and feel him in my home.
I feel as if I am going a little crazy. I cannot find joy in the thoughts of anything "dog related".?!
I miss my best friend more than most can imagine..........
Thank you for letting me vent,
Robin
I feel the need to express some of the feelings I am having.....I believe that the best word to describe them is anger...bitterness.
Drago was severely injured 3 years ago in a car accident with us.....we were hit head on, in our van....and it was totaled.
The fiberglass crate (from Germany) that he was in, was thrown across from the rear of the cargo van to the front seat backs, where it shattered. He suffered a nearly severed ear, muzzle, sinus & spine injury.......BUT by God's grace.....no human involved was critically injured.
Drago has not ever fully recovered.....
The days were getting harder......I watched him as he "tried" to keep his stature.
He would cry and bark every time we would leave for training...( after all....he LIVED for those days)...
He would walk (sideways) as fast as he could.....to beat us to the car, in hopes that we would not "forget" him this time!
On his last day......I started to get things organized for the weekend......and I looked over to "my best friend, my heart dog"....and he was struggling to get his back legs under him. He looked confused, determined AND angry......He looked at me as if to say......"Don't worry mom....I'm coming, don't leave me!"......but he was unable to get upright again.
At that moment, something in me whispered....."It's time." I could not bare to watch the most noble, strong & wonderful best friend...suffer any longer......It would be selfish, and cruel.
HE wasn't happy any longer.....HE wasn't enjoying the things in life that brought him joy....HE was being "protected" by me, and "hidden" from the angles.
I decided to make the journey with my best friend to the bridge crossing.......one of .the saddest days of my adult life.
I am angry, bitter and I still cry many hours of the day. I can hear, smell and feel him in my home.
I feel as if I am going a little crazy. I cannot find joy in the thoughts of anything "dog related".?!
I miss my best friend more than most can imagine..........
Thank you for letting me vent,
Robin
by hodie on 24 March 2010 - 15:03
As I wrote to Robin in a PM last night, thoughts like this are quite normal, although very painful, when one looses a person or a dog or a cat or something one loves. Robin did all she could to help the dog live a good life, but when the time came, she had the guts and the compassion to know it was time. I have great respect for her for not being selfish and putting the interests of Drago first. It is never easy. Expecting to hear, or see the dog in all the normal situations now, as he would have been in life, is also quite normal. And for a long, long time, when she realizes the dog is not there, it hurts so badly.
Personally, I never have learned to deal well with loss. I struggle with anger at myself for ever loving the person, or the dog I have lost. I question whether it is not simply better to have never loved someone or a dog so much. I am not sure I believe the old adage that it is "better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all". Because it hurts and most of us don't like pain.
And, as most people know, grief has many stages. We all grieve in a little bit different way, and certainly at our own pace. But most of us experience the same basic stages of grief, and ANGER is one of them. It can take many forms.
So my advice to Robin is to allow herself to grieve, however she must, and take as long as it takes. In the meantime, doing things for herself, spending time with the other dogs, or with special friends who understand, all are strategies for helping get through this time. I write a letter to the dog I lost and in it, I express all the love I have for the dog, and try to write about some of the great times we had together. Unfortunately, at my age now, I have several such letters.
Loosing a dog one loves is always so painful. But even I can say that in time the pain eases somewhat. Perhaps it is never completely gone, but nature has given us one gift and that is to be able to remember the loved one or dog at some time in the future, without it being so acutely painful. In that way, we can continue to honor our loved one and loss, and yet find a way to go on with life, hard as it can seem at times like this. It is a marvelous adaption nature provides us, otherwise so many of us would be stuck forever in our grief and unable to move on in life.
Hang in there Robin. Many of us know where you are because most of us have experienced this pain too.
Regards.
Personally, I never have learned to deal well with loss. I struggle with anger at myself for ever loving the person, or the dog I have lost. I question whether it is not simply better to have never loved someone or a dog so much. I am not sure I believe the old adage that it is "better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all". Because it hurts and most of us don't like pain.
And, as most people know, grief has many stages. We all grieve in a little bit different way, and certainly at our own pace. But most of us experience the same basic stages of grief, and ANGER is one of them. It can take many forms.
So my advice to Robin is to allow herself to grieve, however she must, and take as long as it takes. In the meantime, doing things for herself, spending time with the other dogs, or with special friends who understand, all are strategies for helping get through this time. I write a letter to the dog I lost and in it, I express all the love I have for the dog, and try to write about some of the great times we had together. Unfortunately, at my age now, I have several such letters.
Loosing a dog one loves is always so painful. But even I can say that in time the pain eases somewhat. Perhaps it is never completely gone, but nature has given us one gift and that is to be able to remember the loved one or dog at some time in the future, without it being so acutely painful. In that way, we can continue to honor our loved one and loss, and yet find a way to go on with life, hard as it can seem at times like this. It is a marvelous adaption nature provides us, otherwise so many of us would be stuck forever in our grief and unable to move on in life.
Hang in there Robin. Many of us know where you are because most of us have experienced this pain too.
Regards.
by GSDtravels on 24 March 2010 - 15:03
by Dawn G. Bonome on 24 March 2010 - 15:03
Robin and Carlos,
I remember him when he was a youngster.
A good dog! Sorry for the loss, and yes, you have every right to feel this way! He was part of your family!
You knew that it was time, and you did what was best for him. You loved him so, and let him go with dignity. You were not selfish.
Thank-you Drago....You are a god boy and will be missed. You are now with God and the angels.
As we all know, this is the hardest part...Saying good-bye!
Regards!
Dawn
I remember him when he was a youngster.
A good dog! Sorry for the loss, and yes, you have every right to feel this way! He was part of your family!
You knew that it was time, and you did what was best for him. You loved him so, and let him go with dignity. You were not selfish.
Thank-you Drago....You are a god boy and will be missed. You are now with God and the angels.
As we all know, this is the hardest part...Saying good-bye!
Regards!
Dawn
by Oskar1 on 24 March 2010 - 15:03
Sorry for your loss, my outmost respect to you, that you did the right thing for Drago.
RIP Drago
Ulli
RIP Drago
Ulli
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