Dilemma - need advice - Page 2

Karen, you were not on that thread - my mistake and apologies. However I stand by my contention that none of the principals has asked you to involve yourself in the possible placement of their pet of 11 years and that it's truly none of your business.

While your intentions may be noble, it's ridiculousy arrogant to assume that you're a better judge of a prospective home for the dog than they are.

Like you said, you don't have all the details.  I would be more inclined to take the time to get more information and actual facts, maybe talk to the veterinarian (owner's sister), rather than jump to any conclusions based on the hearsay of one phone conversation.    While it may be true that it's not an ideal sitution for a dog,  it's a far cry from animal cruelty, so it's not like something must be done today or the dog will suffer irrevocable psychological harm.  Any time someone goes through a divorce it's not easy, but that doesn't necessarily mean it would be better for the dog to remove it from it's home at this point.   Also has there been talk of taking the dog to the shelter or something?  I'm not sure why you think they are not capable of placing their own dog into a good home? 

Sueincc and Trailrider: I am trying to find out more information and attempting to be put in contact with her owners. I was just looking for some advice :re possibly fostering the dog before I spoke with them so I could be prepared to offer or not, depending on what is best for the dog. The impression I have been given is that most avenues have already been exhausted and that's why I was contacted.

ShellyK: Do I think I'm in a better position to find a home for the dog? The fact that these people want to rehome the dog with a stranger rather than let the other one have her speaks volumes to me. They are clearly not thinking about what is best for the dog, so yes, call me arrogant, but I think I can do better. I would at least put the dog's interests ahead of my own selfish agenda. This is why I originally posted the thread. To ask what would be better for the dog!  And, if nothing else, the dog would be in a loving stress-free environment while they deal with their break-up.

Missbeeb, venzomom and Sitsamom: thanks for your support. Like I said, I'm in a position to offer some help and I just want to know what would be best for the dog. Despite the pissing contest that this thread has generated, it really is just about the dog and what is best for her.

Why not end the arguement and just put the dog down...
There you have it, my two cents.

Sueincc, as I stated in my message to you, I am trying to find out more information. I was, and am not, looking for people to agree with me. A reasonable assertion since I have not made up my mind yet. I don't know why you get the impression that I am only looking for people to tell me to take the dog. As I stated in my original post. I would like to know if it would be better or worse for the dog if it was fostered.

I'm sorry that in my attempt to be polite (a rarity around here lately), I tried to acknowledge everyone that had posted.  I'll think better of it next time. What I do take exception to is being told to go scrounge through people's sofas and that I'm ridiculously arrogant (This was the pissing contest I was referring to). It is amazing how a question about a dog can turn into an attack on a person so quickly around here. An even bigger shock to me, since I  am one of the members of this board that does not participate in running down, or attacking, other people.

Thank you Brent for your input. I will take that under consideration, along with the PMs I received (thanks to those who sent one).

Good luck London! Maybe when you talk with them you can make them see they aren't being fair to the dog. I haven't been thru a divorce but  understand it can sure get nasty. But it isn't a couch they are arguing over.... If this girl has been with them her whole life or most of it, its just my opinion she is better off with one of them if they seriously want her. If they are just trying to mess with each other and she is the whipping boy, then maybe a new home would be best. Guess after your talk you may know more.

Yes of course Trailrider, ultimately the best thing would be able to help the owners understand that rehoming the dog (given their individual situation) would be unfair to her. It is a possibility that they do not realise the negative impact this may have on the dog and that she may never settle down properly with new owners and end up being repeatedly rehomed or, given her age, just PTS.