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by Slamdunc on 24 March 2010 - 20:03
Hi Lael,
I'm sorry! I lost my father last year and I know you recently lost your mom. You have gotten some very god suggestions here. I can't think of anything else to advise beyond what has been said; except prayers and I'm thinking of you. I am dealing with my elderly mother and elderly in laws, it is never easy. Please manage your stress and remember to take care of yourself. If you don't take care of yourself you won't be able to help anyone else.
Take care of yourself,
Jim
I'm sorry! I lost my father last year and I know you recently lost your mom. You have gotten some very god suggestions here. I can't think of anything else to advise beyond what has been said; except prayers and I'm thinking of you. I am dealing with my elderly mother and elderly in laws, it is never easy. Please manage your stress and remember to take care of yourself. If you don't take care of yourself you won't be able to help anyone else.
Take care of yourself,
Jim
by GSDtravels on 24 March 2010 - 20:03
I'm so sorry for what you're going through. My parents are 80 and I will soon be faced with this situation. They have a Yorkie and though I like them, HE is a little beast. When their last one had to be put down, I actually tried talking them out of getting another for this very reason. You've gotten some very good suggestions here and I hope one or a combination of a few actually end up working out for you. I'm sorry to hear about the recent loss of your mother, very difficult times, indeed. You are in my thoughts.
by sueincc on 24 March 2010 - 20:03
Depending on how much care your father needs at this point, you may want to check with local churches to see if they can't suggest a parishioner or a couple of parishioners looking for housing. You may be able to find someone that can help you as "live ins" with your father in exchange for rent & utilities.
by poseidon on 24 March 2010 - 22:03
Rlhar,
I am echoing hodie's advice because I feel it is important for you not to be too rational with your dad who may be going through experiences not like his true self. Don't give your dad a hard time about not looking after himself and the consequence of that with the dogs. Might make matters worse.
hodie writes:
Seniors who have lost their spouse often go downhill very quickly. This is a fact. So based on your saying he was in serious trouble and would not call for help, perhaps it is important to consider why. Was he simply unable to call for help, for example, did he fall? Or was he simply unwilling to do so? If the latter, this may indicate some depression which would be very reasonably given the loss of his wife. To take him now away from the dogs would be very difficult............
Another important thing which you may have already done is to speak directly and at length to him about his wishes. What does he want?
It is difficult times for you and your family, I am sure you will ultimately do the right thing. Best wishes.
I am echoing hodie's advice because I feel it is important for you not to be too rational with your dad who may be going through experiences not like his true self. Don't give your dad a hard time about not looking after himself and the consequence of that with the dogs. Might make matters worse.
hodie writes:
Seniors who have lost their spouse often go downhill very quickly. This is a fact. So based on your saying he was in serious trouble and would not call for help, perhaps it is important to consider why. Was he simply unable to call for help, for example, did he fall? Or was he simply unwilling to do so? If the latter, this may indicate some depression which would be very reasonably given the loss of his wife. To take him now away from the dogs would be very difficult............
Another important thing which you may have already done is to speak directly and at length to him about his wishes. What does he want?
It is difficult times for you and your family, I am sure you will ultimately do the right thing. Best wishes.
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