Kennel blindness - Page 2

Doggman,

If this is a friend of yours, then try to help your buddy work through this.  Tough road ahead, however, as most people love their dogs to the point of denial. 

So what's really at the heart of the matter?  Perhaps the dogs are getting old and are not producing well anymore?  Perhaps the breeder has new dogs that aren't the equal of dogs s/he has owned in the past?  Perhaps s/he is not putting the effort into socializing pups and laying a good foundation anymore?  Perhaps s/he is just running a kennel on "cruise control" and living off of reputation of past results?  Perhaps s/he has some ego/insecurity problem that is sparking the denial issue? 

Perhaps none of the above.

If you're a good friend, you might be able to open your buddy's eyes.  Best wishes!

By the way, if you figure out how to do this, please let me know - this can be a common problem in the dog world!

Best wishes!

Yvette

Frank Perdue was a chicken farmer; not a very attrctive person, so no mother would want her newborn compared to him although I have seen many that did resemble him in many ways.  A friend's sister's baby was a dead ring for Frank, Thankfully she outgrew it and looked much better when she started to sprout some hair and the plastic surgeon did miracles with her ears, just amazing. Another unwelcome comparison might be to Elmer Fudd.

SchBabe,

You summed up the problems very well. Mostly DENIAL. If one of your

pups hasn't been titled in 4-5 years and you have been breeding a lot,

somethins wrong.

Doggman,

So what's the deal?  What do you think is causing the denial? 

Yvette

Personal issues that the person is in denial about also. Generally personality traits will come out in several areas of

a person's life. The breeder thing is just one way to see them.

IMHO

Well if it's personal issues that are contributing to the downward spiral in the breeding program, then perhaps you've got a better chance to get through to your friend.  We dog people are a strange lot - some folks love their dogs more than themselves.  As such, your friend might be more open to constructive criticism on his/her own lifestyle than any negative comments on the dogs. 

Your buddy is lucky to have a good friend who is concerned about him/her and willing to try and help. 

Yvette

If it is a close friend, just tell them.  If it is not a close friend, then mind your own business.  It is not "our" job, to tell others what they are doing wrong.  Unless they ask.  Or, you are a cop

No matter what you tell anyone, they will hear it but not listen untill something else happens to them. When they hit rock bottom they MAY remember all that they have been told. Kind of like dating the guy everyone tells you is bad and you will make excuses untill....

And yes, I agree, most of someones problems show up in different areas of their life.

There is perhaps some chance that words of wisdom from a good friend can make a difference.  I remember many times in my life where I was at a critical junction, and a good friend (or two) was able to get through my thick skull and show me the error of my ways.

I know it's classic to say that people are set in their ways, blind to their errors, and such.  However, a wise but misguided individual can sometimes be persuaded to do a 180.

I for one am glad that I've had good friends that gave me a boxing about the ears when I bloody well deserved it!  There's a verse in Proverbs that says, "The wounds of a friend are to be better trusted than the kisses of an enemy."

Yvette

If they haven't gotten it after 4 years they don't want to get it. It's all about priorities. SchHBabe's thoughts are worth trying but don't take ownership of the outcome.